the more connected you are, the more disconnected you are
Social media has become more addictive than ever, giving us constant dopamine. The brain takes this dopamine like a drug. It’s what I call, “toxic dopamine.” It comes from: video games, endless scrolling on TikTok, the constant need for external validation (you crave for likes, attention, views, comments, etc.), constantly watching series and others.
There is also “healthy dopamine”. You can reprogram your brain to ask for dopamine in a different way. For example, after each blog article or book chapter read, give yourself a piece of chocolate or a small gift that gives you a pleasant feeling.
Although we are much more connected, we feel more disconnected from those around us. We ended up replacing actual outings with 2-3 chats.
Schedule time to disconnect.
6. The paradox of failure
You have to fail more to win more.
The most powerful moments in which we truly transform are moments of failure.
Don’t be a failure. Be afraid not to act! Learn by failing fast and smart. It doesn’t fail the same way twice.
Since I was little and I played football and handball for a few years as a sport (I even played handball for performance), I couldn’t stand to watch others play at all. Even if everyone in the family was watching important matches on TV, I preferred to do something else.
And now it’s the same. I’d rather be either a player or the person owning the game than an observer.
7. The paradox of speaking
you talk less, you say more
“We have 2 ears and one mouth so that we can listen twice as much as we can speak” – Epictetus
If you want your words and ideas to be heard, start by talking less and listening more. You will find more power in your words if you think before you speak.
8. The paradox of boredom
The most creative, captivating ideas come directly from intense periods of boredom
You are bored. Your mind starts working. The thoughts come. Creativity begins.
If you are always busy, you don’t have time to be bored and think.
9. The speed paradox
strong and durable brakes allow you to go strong
What helps Formula 1 drivers ‘fly’ on the track?
It’s not the engine, the suspension or the tires. It’s the brakes.
Build brakes in life that allow you to have moments of acceleration and move forward without fear.
10. The search paradox
stop looking to find what you’re looking for
Have you ever noticed that when you’re looking for something, you rarely find it?
If you stop looking, what you were looking for will find you.
Applies to: love, business, happiness, and life.
11. The paradox of control
more control = less control
We have all seen and experienced this: both children, and our partners, and parents.
More often than not, control leads to less control.
People want independence. Anything that prevents them from being independent brings opposition through resistance.
12. The paradox of persuasion
argue less often, persuade more often
Have you noticed that those who argue more often, rarely manage to win the argument?
People who know how to persuade do not enter into arguments. They observe, listen and ask questions.
13. The paradox of effort
you have to put more effort into something to make it require less effort
Top performances that seem to be performed effortlessly are the results of long training that require maximum effort.
Little things become big. If it seems super simple, it doesn’t mean it is.
Here we can think of many examples: Those who practice figure skating – at competitions we see the perfect executions and it seems to us that it is very easy and that they actually float on the ice. Behind that performance are thousands of falls, hits, and efforts.
14. The paradox of fear
the thing we fear most is the thing we must do
Fear, when avoided, becomes a limitation in our growth and progress.
Make a habit of getting closer to what you fear. Treat fear as a magnet for your energy.
Everything you really want is outside your comfort zone.
15. The paradox of money
you have to lose money to make more money
Every successful investor and creator has stories full of valuable lessons based on experiences with big losses.
Sometimes you have to pay to learn.
Put money into action. Invest to earn more.
